Note the library location changes! This month we'll be in the large main meeting room at the Tyler Library.
Salt Lake Oasis discussion group is like a book club, but focused on short content - such as podcasts, TED Talks, or online articles. Topic We don't see the world as it is, we see it as WE are.” -Talmud.
To what extent does the whole world change if we “change how we view the world?”
How do we apply the eastern mindset–instead of fearing/avoiding suffering, changing how we view it? I.e., “How do we make stress our friend?”
Key Concepts:
⚉David Logan: Stages of Leaders: Stage 1: "Despairing hostility"--life sucks. Stage 2: Apathetic victim: "my life sucks" Stage 3 "Lone Warrior--I'm great, and you're not." Stage 4: Tribal Pride "We're great, and they're not". Stage 5: Innocent wonderment.
⚉Kelly McGonigal [focus is on STRESS]: believing stress is bad for you is the 15th largest cause of death in the united states
⚉Your body believes you (and responds accordingly) if you choose to view stress as bad/a source of fear VS a challenge and a way your body rises to challenges. You're saying that you can trust yourself to handle life's challenges. And you're remembering that you don't have to face them alone.
⚉Chasing meaning is better for your health than fearing/avoiding discomfort. The best way to live life is seek after what creates meaning, and just trust yourself that you can handle any stress that comes
⚉Rory Sutherland: When you place a value on things like health, love, sex and other things, and learn to place a material value on what you've previously discounted for being merely intangible, a thing not seen, you realize you're much, much wealthier than you ever imagined. [What is fake happiness contrasted with "meaningful reframing”?]
⚉Spend more time appreciating what already exists and less time agonizing about what else we can do.
⚉"We are perishing for want of wonder, not for want of wonders." - GK Chesterton
Discussion Questions: What idea from these talks most challenges the way you currently think about happiness?
Why do humans tend to believe that calm = healthy/successful/happy? Is that actually true? What beliefs about “the good life” actually make people less happy?
How much of suffering comes from events themselves versus the meaning we attach to them?
How can we make "reaching out" a more natural part of our stress response? (How do we reframe it in our minds?)
Can someone be genuinely happy while simultaneously overwhelmed or imperfect? Why or why not?
Can a person stay emotionally healthy inside an unhealthy culture? How?
What makes people feel truly connected instead of merely included?
When is changing perception wise vs dangerous?
What is one stressful or imperfect area of your life that could be reinterpreted in a healthier way?
Below are some resources for exploring this topic. Feel free to add ones you find and like in the comments of this event, or join our Oasis Network Discord & the Salt Lake City chapter channels to share (
Discord Invite). Also, you're welcome to join even if you don't listen to any of the materials, we always have great conversations with diverse opinions!
Discussion materials:
https://www.ted.com/talks/david_logan_tribal_leadership
https://www.ted.com/talks/kelly_mcgonigal_how_to_make_stress_your_friend
https://www.ted.com/talks/rory_sutherland_life_lessons_from_an_ad_man
We'll be in the main meeting room of the Tyler Library.
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